You've got a friend in me..

So I have been thinking about true friendship a lot lately.  What makes a true friend, a best friend?  And I've decided it's someone who has no problem saying something that will tick you off.  Looking back at my best friends in life..the ones that are true through and through.  They all frustrate me, tick me off, and sometimes flat out annoy me..and I love them more than life and would do anything for them.

So if they do all these horrible things why do I love them?  Because 97.67% of the time they are driving me nuts its because they are telling me something I NEED  to hear, but it's not what I want to hear.  My dearest friends and I have had some knock out drag out fights and not talked for months, heck even years.  But it's all because we're stubborn, hard headed, and honest.  We tell each other what we really think, no matter what.  Do I hate that we have lost that time in our friendships? Of course, but I love that I have friends that love me enough to tell me I am being stupid, idiotic, or flat out dumb.


Unfortunately, I do the same thing.  You ask me what I think, I'm going to tell you the truth.  I am going to tell you what I really think..I may even do it without you asking.  But I'm not doing it to be mean, malicious, or caddy..I am doing it because I love you.  And I have learned through my mistakes, relationships, and friendships that people on the outside ALWAYS see things you can't on the inside.


While most my friends have been a part of this lesson in my life, my best, Shelli Brienne has probably had the most impact.  She has been my best friends since February 2005, my second semester of college.  And in the 6 years of our friendship we have had more ups and downs, fights and make ups, then most would think possible in a healthy friendship.  But all of them came from one of us looking out for the other, wanting what is best; not what's easiest for our best friend.  She really helped me learn about being a real friend, not a "happy" friend.  And I love her so so so much for that...and I love baby!!!

I don't even know if this made sense, but just some thoughts Ive been having.