Our Story*

So my husband & I have been home together for 11 days and he goes back to work tomorrow.  So I have been thinking about our story and how thankful I am for him.

We met the first of August 2005 in RA training. 

We started hanging out April 2006.

Went on our first date in May 2006.

Didn't see eachother again until August  2006.

Were best friends (w/ups and downs) till March 2007.

Finally started dating March 28, 2007.

We said "I Love You" for Valentines 2008.

I moved away from Tahlequah, leaving him to finish his school, in August 2008.

He moved to Tulsa to work & be with me in June 2009.

We got engaged on March 28, 2010.

We got married March 12, 2011.

We moved into our first house October 28. 2011

We got our first fur baby on May 26, 2012.

We just spent our 5th New Years Eve together.

This may not be a storybook fairytale, but it is our fairy tale and I wouldn't trade it for the world.  Everything that has happened in our relationship has made our relationship better.  Our friendship before dating made our relationship deeper.  Our distance made us appreciate each other more.  Taking it slow let us really get to know each other and love each other for who we are with all our quirks.  We have seen each other at our worsts and our bests.  We have fought for something we want together - whether it is our dream house or our relationship.  We have been in each other's lives for about 2,706 days and I cannot wait to see what the next 365 bring (& the next 18,250 days after that.)

You've got a friend in me..

So I have been thinking about true friendship a lot lately.  What makes a true friend, a best friend?  And I've decided it's someone who has no problem saying something that will tick you off.  Looking back at my best friends in life..the ones that are true through and through.  They all frustrate me, tick me off, and sometimes flat out annoy me..and I love them more than life and would do anything for them.

So if they do all these horrible things why do I love them?  Because 97.67% of the time they are driving me nuts its because they are telling me something I NEED  to hear, but it's not what I want to hear.  My dearest friends and I have had some knock out drag out fights and not talked for months, heck even years.  But it's all because we're stubborn, hard headed, and honest.  We tell each other what we really think, no matter what.  Do I hate that we have lost that time in our friendships? Of course, but I love that I have friends that love me enough to tell me I am being stupid, idiotic, or flat out dumb.


Unfortunately, I do the same thing.  You ask me what I think, I'm going to tell you the truth.  I am going to tell you what I really think..I may even do it without you asking.  But I'm not doing it to be mean, malicious, or caddy..I am doing it because I love you.  And I have learned through my mistakes, relationships, and friendships that people on the outside ALWAYS see things you can't on the inside.


While most my friends have been a part of this lesson in my life, my best, Shelli Brienne has probably had the most impact.  She has been my best friends since February 2005, my second semester of college.  And in the 6 years of our friendship we have had more ups and downs, fights and make ups, then most would think possible in a healthy friendship.  But all of them came from one of us looking out for the other, wanting what is best; not what's easiest for our best friend.  She really helped me learn about being a real friend, not a "happy" friend.  And I love her so so so much for that...and I love baby!!!

I don't even know if this made sense, but just some thoughts Ive been having.

4 months and counting..

Well I never promised to be good at this blogging thing.  I only made 2 posts before the wedding..sad.  However, the wedding was amazing, beautiful, and perfect...and went way way too fast.  All of our friends and family were able to get together and celebrate us starting our life together.  Not to be biased or anything, but I think it was the BEST MOST AMAZING wedding I have ever been to.  Here is us with our most "awesomest" wedding party.

Since then it's been a ride!  I finished my first year at Country Lane.  It was busy, crazy, and wonderful!  I am  too excited to start my second year as Mrs. Lewis with "Mrs. Lewis' Wild Things".  Kindergarten full time stretches me in ways I never knew, but I love my job, I love my students, and I love my staff.  And there is no what I could do without my AMAZING para, Michelle is amazing.  I hope she's ready for a whole new year of crazies, funnies, and who knows what else our kids will bring! I cannot wait to get back and meet my new babies, in my new room WITH A BATHROOM!

 However, as excited as I am to get back I have absolutely loved my Summer!!  I have got to spend time with my family, my friends, the babies, and my amazing husband.  It's nice to wake up, and think "What do I WANT to do today?"  I have got to spend some amazing time with my nephew.  And let me tell you Hunter Max McGrew is the best most amazing baby EVER.  He turned one this summer, started walking, got a BIG boy haircut, and is developing the best personality.  I am pretty madly deeply in love with him.  I have also been able to meet back up with my best friend Sara!  WE are both usually so busy with school, life, and her babies we don't get to see each other much during school.  I love that I can call her and tell her anything, or just go over whenever.  And I love that when I walk in I get met with one of the most beautiful smiles from baby Cara and schnuggle time with my Booger.  I love them forever and forever.  I have also got to spend time with my mumster.  I love her, she's the best mumster....EVER!  And I love that more than my mom she has become one of my best friends to call.  And one of my great most beautiful friends has moved back!!  Too excited, that not only has Ms. Anne Take moved back to town, she is working at Broken Arrow!!  Oh, and I found out I am going to be a "Fraunt" in March, and I cannot be more ecstatic!  This little "Miracle" is going to be so beautiful, marvelous, and a just a little angel brought here to love my best friend and I cannot wait to go through this process with her and little "Miracle".

Now to the husband.  Oh, he is amazing!  I love being married to my best friend!  This summer we were able to go on a cruise to Mexico for our honeymoon and it was AMAZING.  I had the most wonderful time with him, and cannot wait to see where else our life will take us together!  This past weekend we were also able to go camping and floating with a group of his friends from back home and had a magnificent time, despite the sun burns!  I love where we are in our life.  We are looking for a house, ready to move forward. Just waiting for "our" house to pop up.  This is a VERY frustrating process, but I couldn't imagine making it through it with anybody else.  Brian Mathew Lewis is my best friend, my husband, my rock, my release, and everything I need.  It's funny though.  When you're dating it's "When ya getting married?!", when you're engaged it's "When's the date are ya excited?!", then AS SOON as you get married it's "When are the babies?"  I am excited to have a baby, and be a mum...SOMEDAY.  But I LOVE our life right now.  I love that if we want to go camping and floating one weekends, we can.  I love that if I want to go see my bests in Tahlequah and he wants to go see his in OKC, we can.  We can go on a cruise, we can go see Harry Potter, we can just throw a can of soup in the microwave for dinner if we want.  And we can do all this without any worry of a babysitter, dinner for a child, or any of those worries.  Basically, right now we get to be a selfish as we want and not feel bad about it.  And that's what we want in our life right now, we want to live it up with each other as much as we can and just enjoy each other!

Here's hoping I'll keep this up...somewhat...sometimes..every few months maybe?

Ups and Downs..

So this week has had some ups and downs with the wedding.  We (as in Mum and Dad) paid off the venue, the cake, the catering, and we have almost everything done.  So it is getting so real and so close..and I am too excited.

However, there have also been some big hits.  People I really love maybe not being able to make it for health reasons and realizing how little some "friends" care.  If I just sit and think about these, I get very sad..and the person I want with me is Brian.

The thing I am most excited about getting married is having a best friend I DON'T have to call.  See, I won't have to call him because he is already going to be right by my side for the rest of my life.  The good, the bad, and the in between.  And there isn't anyone else I would want there with me.  He helps me see the bright side of things when I can't, and when there just isn't a bright side he comforts me and helps me feel better.  I won't have to worry about him backing out on me last minute cause he's already promised to be there good or bad for the rest of our life.  He listens to my endless stories about students, teachers, disorders, or anything else that completely fascinates or is in my life...even when it really doesn't matter to him.  He does this cause he loves me and he knows it is imprtant to me.  He will go places he doesn't really want to...just to make me happy.  I know there is going to be some really poopy things happen in my life, but as long as Brian is by my side I know I will make it through. 

So people keep asking, "Are you ready?"  The answer is simple, "HECK YES!"  I cannot be more ready to have my best friend by my side for the rest of my life.  The person I can trust with no doubts.  I am so ready to walk down that aisle and say, "I do" and get this party started!

Introduction

So I'm going to try this blogging thing.  I'm getting married in 30 days, so what better time to blog.  A month before I change my life forever.  I absolutely cannot wait, but before I get into all of that.  Let me introduce you to the love of my life...Brian Mathew Lewis.

I met Brian in August of 2005 at RA training.  However, after our 2 weeks of training I probably didn't talk to or really see him until the end of that year.  In May, as most college students do during the the last month of a semester, I spent every night at my best friend Erin's room (Thanks! :)) hanging out until the sun came up.  Lucky for me, she worked with Brian and he was there every night.  So we hung out every night...playing poker, watching movies, and getting to know each other.  He even drew me a picture of myself for my 20th birthday.  (I knew then this guy was special!)  He eventually asked me out fo the Friday before we all left to go home.  So we were SUPPOSE to go eat at El Zarape then go see Mission Impossible 3.  However, seeing as though we were not sleeping at night we both decided to take a nap before our date.  We woke up just in time to make the movie. =)  Well we went to the movie and half way through I start feeling off..I got dizzy and shaky, but made it through the movie.  As soon as the movie ends he drives me straight home to rest.  Great first date, right?!  Sleep through half of it, then get sick.  Needless to say, we left the next day to go to our homes for the summer and didn't talk all summer.

Well August 2006 rolls around and we move back to school for training.  When I move back I am technically dating a guy, but he stops calling as soon as I move back.  So that was over.  I then get moved to work in Brian's building, and we hook back up.  Hanging out constantly, working together, and ultimately becoming best friends.  Through out the year we kinda date, then just hang out as friends.  No one really knows what we were..including us. =)  (Truth is..we knew and we were scared of what we would become.)  Finally, after Spring Break we come back to school.  Both of us knew we truly cared for the other.  On March 28, 2007 we FINALLY officially get together.

Fast Forward three years: March 28, 2010.  Any other Sunday really.  We go play in our softball league after church, then go back to his apartment.  I decide I need a nap, and tell him to wake me up at 6:30 and I'll cook his anniversary dinner.  Did he ever wake me up?!  I feel a kiss on my forhead and him saying wake up..so I open my eyes and pretty much go into shock.  There is Brian on one knee asking me to marry him.  And all I can do is stare at him!  I'm still half asleep, I'm shocked..eventually I say yes and jump out of bed!  Come to find out he called my parents while I was sleeping to ask permission.  This was the perfect proposal for me..Our first date started after a nap and so did our engagement.

As the cliche goes "the rest is history".  But it is.  He was my first honest and real relationship and is the first man I ever loved, in fact he taught me what true love is.  I feel safe and as though nothing can hurt me when I am with him.  He is amazing.  He is smart, handsome, caring, goofy, patient, strong, and everything I need in my life.  He puts up with me, but not only puts up with me, he gives me a run for my money.  He's perfect for me.  I cannot be mad or sad when I am around him.  He makes everything better.  He is my Prince Eric to my Ariel..he is my other half.  I absolutely cannot wait to become Mrs. Brian Lewis and see where our live together will take us.